No understanding with your partner? You speak different languages!

Many people often find themselves in a situation where the partner with whom they are building a relationship ceases to understand them. Why?

It is essential to know what language you speak and what your partner speaks in such a situation. This can directly affect the harmony in your relationship and help reduce the number of unpleasant situations. So first, let's figure out what language of love you speak! 

When do you feel good with your partner and feel loved? If you can't answer, let's go backward: what hurts you, makes you more vulnerable? If criticism, condemnation, and rebuke hit you where it hurts most, your language is words of encouragement. If the lack of surprises upsets you, your language is gifts. If the lack of attention due to constant business and a heavy workload concerns you, your language is time. 

It is worth paying attention to how you show love and what you do in a relationship. Perhaps you want to get the same in return. 

So, let's get into it in more depth and figure out what it is and why we need to know all about it.
It doesn't matter if you're a couple or just looking for your partner; it's critical to figure out what you want and what matters most to you. Do you think you can give what your spouse needs, or is your spouse able to provide what you need?? 

There are 5 main languages of love:

Words of affirmation

This is when we express our love through kind and encouraging words. Suppose your partner's love language is words of affirmation. In that case, it is essential to tell him how much you appreciate and love him. Compliments, praise, and words of support will touch him deeply. But remember that it's important not only what we say but also how we say it. The exact phrase can be told in completely different ways. 

Quality Time

Quality time is when we show our love by giving our undivided attention to our partner. Sometimes we are so focused on what's happening around us that we don't notice the people around us. For example, workaholics are so absorbed in their work that they may lose track of how much time it takes away from their lives. If your partner's love language is quality time, it is crucial to spend time with him doing things he enjoys. This can be anything from going for a walk together to watching his favorite TV show.

Help

Acts of service - this is when we show our love by doing things to help our partner. If your partner's love language is an act of service, it is vital to do something that will make his life easier. This can be anything from taking the dog for a walk, making tea, picking up from work, or doing the grocery shopping. All mentioned above can be invaluable and so much-needed help for your partner. 

Physical Touch

Physical touch is when we express our love through physical contact. If your partner's love language is physical touch, you have to show him physical affection. Instead of a thousand words, those people needed something from hugging and kissing to holding hands, massaging, and having sex.

Gifts

Gifts - this is when we show our love by giving gifts to our partner. If your partner's love language is gifts, he or she will appreciate and notice what you give them - thoughtful and meaningful gifts. You can buy a gift or make one with your own hands, and this can be anything from a box of chocolates to a new shirt. You don't have to spend a fortune to impress your partner. Most importantly, give your partner what he likes, not what you want.

And in conclusion, remember that knowing and understanding your partner's love language will boomerang back your efforts. You will be rewarded by your partner as gratitude. It doesn't matter how long you've known each other. Even though it's been years, or if you met your partner recently on a dating site, one of the relationship languages listed above is required to have a successful partnership.

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Ann Adams

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Ann Adams, a renowned online dating expert, offers valuable insights and practical advice to navigate the digital dating landscape, helping individuals find love online with confidence and success.