The Situationship: A New Dating Trend in the 21st century


The Situationship: A New Dating Trend in the 21st century

In a situationship, one partner may develop romantic feelings and an emotional connection while the other partner enjoys their freedom by seeing other people.
While "situationships" may sound like a label partner use for their relationship, it can actually be used by one person to trap another into continuing the arrangement out of factors such as convenience and sex.
Often, a situationship can drag on for months without real progress. This can be frustrating and even heartbreaking for the partner who wants to be in a relationship. To avoid this pain, it is essential to understand and recognize the signs of a situationship.

The Situationship: A New Relationship Trend

People in "situationships" often feel like the relationship is going nowhere - even though they hope it will turn into something more committed and serious. Knowing the signs of a situationship can help you save yourself from heartbreak by not investing your time in someone who isn't ready for a real relationship.
In any relationship, learning to trust your partner is crucial. The whole relationship is built on a false foundation if you can't believe what they say.
Sometimes the warning signs are subtle, but they can be overt too – and it's key to identify them early on to protect yourself emotionally and mentally.

What is the difference between a Situationship and a Relationship?

A situationship is a relationship in which the partners have no clear intentions or end goals. This usually starts with one partner not wanting to define the relationship.
Defining the parameters of your relationship is crucial to building a foundation of trust and respect with your partner. By communicating what you are and are not comfortable with physically, emotionally, and sexually, you create an understanding that will help prevent hurt feelings or conflict down the road. Discussing where you see yourselves in the future – whether short-term or long-term goal – will also help keep both partners on the same page."
Situationships can be a transitory term for the relationship – especially if you just started dating and haven't seen each other long. Nevertheless...Situationships don't always develop months later; they may occur after only a few dates.

Situationships often happen for a variety of reasons, such as:

  • With the plethora of dating websites and apps, finding The One cannot be easy.
  • The other person may not be ready for a committed relationship.
  • They may see you as a short-term fling instead of long-term partner material.
  • They aren't interested in anything long-term.

What's the Difference Between a "Situationship" and "Friends with Benefits?"

A friends-with-benefits situation is almost exactly like a Situationship, but those involved agree to be clear about their intentions before starting the relationship.

Partners in a friends-with-benefits relationship may agree that there are no romantic feelings involved and that the relationship is purely physical.
They may also decide that there is no commitment and that it is simply a hookup with no strings attached.

Situationships are different from regular relationships in a few key ways:

  • The parameters of the relationship may not be clear or discussed.
  • Romance is still a part of the situation, which can include physical and emotional intimacy, but even with romance present, the label "relationship" might not apply.
  • One or both partners may balk at commitment, even if they're going on dates and doing things other couples do together.

How to Determine if You're in a 'Situationship'

If you find that your relationship is stuck in a rut and not progressing, it may be signs.

  • You and your partner haven't hit any relationship milestones, such as introductions to friends or family or—most importantly—defining the relationship.
  • Your partner may also be conducting sexual or romantic relationships with other people outside the relationship.
  • You may even find out that your partner has these other intimate relationships through social media or friends, which could be a sign of poor communication between you and your partner. This lack of communication can lead to a toxic relationship.

If your partner frequently makes last-minute plans or cancellations, especially with the same excuses, you may be in a situationship. Some common examples of these excuses include being busy at work or having other commitments like going to the gym.

  • If your partner seems to only see you as a backup plan and never makes any effort to compromise, they're probably using you.
  • If your partner rarely makes plans in advance and typically only invites you to things last-minute, you may be caught up in a situationship.
  • An inconsistency in contact and communication may also signify that you and your partner are "in a situationship." If your partner doesn't frequently text, call, or see you, and you have no idea when you'll hear from them again, this could be the case.

Instead of long, deep conversations, you and your partner may feel more comfortable with playful "dirty talk."

  • In situationships, you and your partner will avoid conversations about yourselves, your expectations, and anything else necessary. Situationships can involve sex but not emotional intimacy.
  • Situationships often result in anxiety because of the lack of communication, certainty, and stability.
  • If your partner is constantly sending you mixed signals, it can be very confusing and frustrating. One minute they seemed committed to making the relationship work, and the next, they couldn't care less about it.

The more time that passes without an established title for your relationship, the greater the chance it will become a situationship.

The more time passes without a commitment from your partner, the more it becomes evident that they don't value the relationship as much as you do.
If your partner is unwilling to talk about where things are going, you know that you're in an undefined relationship ("situationship"), which clarifies where you stand with them.

What to do When You Find Yourself in a Situationship

Relationships are great, but sometimes we end up in a "situationship." If you're not feeling fulfilled or satisfied, it might be time to take a step back and figure out what you want. Situationships can often result in feelings of disappointment and insecurity. If you want a committed relationship with someone who is willing to build a healthy foundation with you, it might be time to find somebody new.

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