It's a well-known fact that cheating on your spouse or significant other is one of the worst things you can do. And yet, many people go ahead and cheat anyway. Sometimes this is because they're unhappy with their relationship but don't know how to fix it - but more often, it's because they think that if they keep up appearances and always behave perfectly, then no one will find out what's going on behind closed doors. But as we'll see in this article, not only are there easy ways around most infidelity "detection" systems - there are also a number of mistakes cheaters make which give them away even when they try their best to cover up for themselves!
So how does someone successfully cheat without getting caught? It's simple: it all revolves around the details. What do we mean by this? Well, to illustrate our point, let's consider an analogy: suppose you're watching a stage play. Everything is going well - the story is interesting and the actors are great. But then something happens which seems completely out of place: one of the actors takes off his mask and reveals himself as a plant. Suddenly, the whole play seems to fall apart.
Why is this? Well, the problem is that even though everything going on with the actors seemed perfectly normal when you were watching them from a distance - it wasn't until you got up close and saw something seemingly out of place that you realized something was amiss. In other words, it's not the big things that give people away - it's all the little details.
So what does this have to do with cheating? Well, just as it's possible to fool people into thinking a play is going successfully even though it isn't, so too is it possible to fool your partner about an affair without them finding out. But as we'll see, this isn't magic or anything like it. All you need to know is what your partner didn't notice when the performance went well - the small details which go unnoticed during a routine affair.
There are plenty of things you can do to avoid getting caught by taking advantage of these details. We'll describe some:
Learn the signs to look for
First of all, you have to learn how your partner behaves when they're suspicious. If they've figured out that you're cheating on them, then it's very likely that at least some of their behaviors will be similar to this:
- They'll stare deep into your eyes whenever they talk to you, as if trying to search your soul for any hint of a lie.
- They'll ask you the same questions over and over again, without being satisfied by your answers.
- They'll follow you around the house to see who you're talking to on the phone or online.
If you can avoid giving off these kinds of clues -you're basically home free.
Keep your schedule filled
That's right - it isn't enough to just tell your partner that you're busy when they ask who you're hanging out with lately. If you want to give the impression of an active social life, then you need to actually have an active social life! And this means not only having plenty of friends and acquaintances around to spend time with - but even better, spending some time alone in public.
For example, if you're trying to conceal a couple of nights spent with your online mistress or casual sex partner, then you can buy yourself plenty of room to maneuver by spending an hour every day at the library studying alone. This way, when your significant other decides to check up on you, it won't be too hard to convince your partner that you're just spending time alone.
You've got to clean yourself up
It's not just enough to simply buy new clothes and shower regularly for your affair(s) - if you want to avoid getting caught then you need to take things one step further. After all, the other person is going to notice your new clothes and shower - but they probably won't think too much of it unless you start dressing or smelling differently.
Some people recommend cologne as a good solution for this, although it should be noted that even cologne can trigger suspicion if it's noticed by someone else. And in most cases, it's not a good idea to give someone the ability to detect your affair from miles away - even if there's no chance of them running into that other person.
Take a page from the spy handbook
If everything else fails, then you can always fall back on classic spy tactics for keeping your affair(s) hidden. These tactics may include:
- Ducking around corners or into rooms to avoid having your picture taken.
- Wearing disguises (for example, a baseball cap and sunglasses).
- Following the other person home if they seem suspicious of you.
The main thing to keep in mind with this tactic is that it's only recommended for people who are naturally good actors and actresses. If you're not comfortable sneaking around like a covert spy, then your best bet is to stick with one of the other options we've described here.
Make sure your browser history is protected
One of the easiest ways for someone to catch you cheating is if they find out your browser history - especially on affair dating sites. And while there are plenty of ways to get around this, the simplest solution is to make sure your browser history can't be accessed by other people.
In most cases, your significant other won't have a reason to look at your browser history - but if they do their best efforts to catch you cheating, then it's still better to take precautions. After all, the easiest way to protect your browser history is just by deleting it - but if you have an option that prevents others from accessing it in the first place, then go with that one instead.
The bottom line? Cheating is never easy...but avoiding detection can be even harder - especially when you're working against someone who knows you inside and out. That's why we recommend following the tips we've outlined here to keep yourself safe from prying eyes.
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