How to Spot a Roach: 5 Signs Your Partner Is Roaching You

You may have heard the term roaching tossed around in the dating world lately. So, what is it?
In a nutshell, roaching is when someone hops from one relationship to another without fully committing. They might be seeing other people on the side, or they might just be stringing you along while they're still exploring their options. But either way, they're not being honest with you, and that's not fair.
If you think you're being roached, look out for a few signs. 

The Early Signs of Roaching in a Relationship

You've been dating someone for a while, and things are going great. But then, out of nowhere, your partner starts pulling away. They stop calling often, or they might even start making excuses for why they can't see you.
What's going on? Could they be cheating on you? The answer is yes, and it's called roaching. Roaching is when your partner starts cheating on you but doesn't want to end the relationship. So instead of breaking up with you outright, they'll start cheating on you and hope you never find out.
How can you tell if your partner is roaching you? Here are five signs to watch out for:
1. They start making excuses for why they can't see you.
2. They start calling or texting you less often.
3. They start canceling plans at the last minute.
4. Their behavior changes in ways that suggest they're hiding something.
5. They become more possessive and protective of their phone and computer. If you see any of these signs, you must talk to your partner and find out what's happening. Roaching is a severe breach of trust, and it's not something that can be fixed overnight. 

Roaching - motives for doing it

But here's the thing: roaching isn't about love or connection. It's about convenience. Your partner knows that if they date someone else under the radar, they can still keep you in the loop for all the important stuff. They still get to see your face and enjoy your company without having to deal with the commitment of a real relationship.

What to Do if You Think You're Being Roached

You can do a few things if you think you are being roached.
First, talk to your partner. They'll be willing to have that conversation if they're honest with you and have nothing to hide. If they're not open to talking about it, that's a red flag right there.
Second, look for the signs. If your partner is always canceling plans at the last minute, or if they're constantly making up excuses for why they can't see you, that's a sign that something might be going on.
Third, don't be afraid to reach out to your friends and family. They might be able to help you see things from a different perspective, and they can also offer support if things get tough.
Fourth, if your partner is always going out of their way to ensure you're not around when they're talking to other people or acting shady about who they're talking to online, that's a red flag.

How to Avoid Roaching in Your Own Relationship

Roaching is a huge dating no-no, and it's, unfortunately, becoming more and more common. So how do you avoid being roached by your partner?
Well, first of all, it's essential to be aware of the signs mentioned above. 
And secondly, trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably is. If you feel that your partner is unfaithful, talk to them about it. The sooner you address the issue, the better. 

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Jacob Horan is a charismatic dating blogger sharing practical insights and relatable experiences to guide readers in navigating the modern world of romance.